Those abuela-birth myths have some truth to them

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Those abuela-birth myths have some truth to them

 Posted by Stacey Rivera on January 23, 2012 at 3:45 PM

My pregnancy was a little bit of a surprise. OK, it was a HUGE surprise to me and everyone around me. I was in my early-30s and my family had finally accepted the fact that I just wasn't having children. Funny how your body has a way of winning the biological clock war. I blame it on all the time I was spending with my best friends twins. Hormones, O.M.G!

 

I was deathly afraid of pregnancy. My mother and sisters had HORRIBLE stories. Terrible, awful tales of non-stop vomiting, and varicose veins in places no one should ever speak of. The glimmer of hope was always these stories about my abuela giving birth at home, alone, in the mountains of Puerto Rico, nary a painkiller in sight. And in like an hour. AND MADE LUNCH WHEN SHE WAS DONE! The dream was that I could give birth like she did.

And I did, sorta. The hour part anyway.

I had a good pregnancy. Aside from acid reflux, I could eat and basically sleep. I never vomited (well, I did once but that, it turns out, was pre-labor). I had lulled myself into believing that I was having the mythical, abuela experience. I was prepared to deliver fast and easy, just like she did, and then get up, put on my lipstick and start making rice and beans while sweeping the bathroom and humming to the baby, alseep in my arms. Yeah, this is what actually happened:

I had back labor: This was the first sign that abuela was not going to be on my side. I never once felt a cramp in my belly. What I did feel was pain from my spine, wrapping around my torso. Needless to say, I thought I was having back pain, not labor, so I had that scary feeling of, I truly don't know if I am in labor or not. I was. Maybe this was how she "didn't have labor too long." Hmmmm.

We got stuck in some traffic: Again, abuela looking down on me, shaking her head about my choice to go to a fancy hospital over doing it at home like she did. My water had broken, my contractions were coming every two minutes, and we were stuck in traffic trying to pay a toll. I almost ripped the door handle off.

It only took an hour: Of pushing that is. Once I started pushing, I did follow abuela's example and basically told the doctor and nurse, back off, I am pushing my own way. Their legs up in the air thing was not working for me. Some voice inside of me told me how to do it and I did. Exactly one hour later, done. Baby boy here! I image it went something like that for her too. Inner voice kicks in, biology takes over.

And while I didn't start cooking and cleaning, I was showered, dressed, eating and walking around before the baby's first feeding.

Did you give birth like your abuela? Did her stories scare you or help you?



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ML Ingrid

I have no idea how my abuela's giving birth went.  All I know is that I had the epitome of a perfect pregnancy. Labor wasn't fun but everything went smoothly.

NatVee45

Everything scared me! LOL! After giving birth, almost nothing scares me.

maria123

I loved this story!! I'm also terribly scared about giving birth, I've heard so many horrible stories that it's nice to hear the nice ones, too!

mariposita826

OMG! My great grandma had 15 kids, all naturally, in her bedroom. My grandma told me she watched her mom hold on to the post of her bed in the PR mountains, squat and pop out one of her little brothers. I'm totally terrified of giving birth though, LOL

MrsDianaB
I was told a relative way back when was in labor when the reveloution (sp) was coming their way so they put her on top of a blanket and carried her between two horses and ran off before the war was on top of them.
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Mariluzm2007
I had a easy pregnancy and labor. But thank God for epidurals bc I would've died!!!
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giovanna1005
My labor went very well I also think the younger you are the easier it is my first child I had him in an hour second boy 4 pushes and he was out but 19 hours just to dialate I didn't want a c-section no more kids
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Gabycr

I don't have idea .. they nver talk about it .. not even my mom . 

Amiga_mia

Mariluzm you would have not died, lol.. You know  we as woman have this great power to bring babies to this world,  That is something God gave us. Strength. I had my 2 boys without epidural and everything went fine girl..hehe

Quoting Mariluzm2007:

I had a easy pregnancy and labor. But thank God for epidurals bc I would've died!!!


Amiga_mia

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Quoting giovanna1005:

My labor went very well I also think the younger you are the easier it is my first child I had him in an hour second boy 4 pushes and he was out but 19 hours just to dialate I didn't want a c-section no more kids