Advice & Info #2: How do I get my baby to learn good sleeping habits? Co-sleeping with your baby: a do or a don't?
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"My 7 month old still isn't sleeping through the night. Should I be doing something to help him?"
Should babies be picked up every time they wake or do they need to learn how to self-soothe?
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"My 7 month old still isn't sleeping through the night. Should I be doing something to help him?"
No. Babies can't have sleeping schedule. If you want too you can try the Ferber Method. It is really good and I used it but when they were older.
What exactly is the Ferber method?
In a nutshell, Ferber says you can teach your baby to soothe himself to sleep when he's physically and emotionally ready, usually sometime between 3 and 5 months of age.
He recommends following a warm, loving bedtime routine and then putting your baby in bed awake and leaving him (even if he cries) for gradually longer periods of time. Putting a child to bed awake, says Ferber, is crucial to successfully teaching him to go to sleep on his own.
Parents are instructed to pat and comfort their baby after each predetermined period of time, but not to pick up or feed their baby. This routine is called "progressive waiting."
The suggested waiting time, which Ferber charts in his book, is based on how comfortable you are with the technique, how many days you've been using it, and how many times you've already checked on your child that night.
After a few days to a week of gradually increasing the waiting time, the theory goes, most babies learn to fall asleep on their own, having discovered that crying earns nothing more than a brief check from you.



In my opinion babies cry for a reason either they are hungry, wet, uncomfortable or they just want to be held. So, yes they should be pick up when they cry and no they will not get "spoiled".
Its always safer to have your kids sleep in their own beds, but then again you want to make sure that they are safe beside in your bed. I personally used the Cry it out method and found it to be quite effective.
Especially during the first few months, your baby is learning to trust you. So, I do think babies should be tended to when they cry.
Quoting sweetyazfl:In my opinion babies cry for a reason either they are hungry, wet, uncomfortable or they just want to be held. So, yes they should be pick up when they cry and no they will not get "spoiled".
7 month old babies aren't supposed to sleep through the night. I never understood the rush for baby to sleep through the night. They will in their own time. I look at baby getting up as a reassurance to me that they are still breathing. Babies cry for a reason and I have never let either of my sons cry it out. I do pick them up. I then try and see what's wrong. Maybe they are thirsty, maybe they had a pain from laying a certain way. Who knows? My oldest slept in our room next to my side of the bed until he was 16 months old. We got him a toddler bed then and put him in his own room. He had no problems self soothing himself at that point. He's 3 yrs old now and he will have some nights where he needs a little reassurance. I go and reassure him and all is good.
Yo tambien creo que un bebe dever ser atendido cada vez que llore pero tambien entiendo que es bien estresante estar haciendo cada vez que se despierten. Yo creo que es importante no dejarlo llorar pero tampoco levantarlo cada vez, mejor me acuesto con el despues de haberle checado el panal y ver k puedo hacer por el.
I co slept with my little one, I still do. WIth my other ones I co slept with them but not for that long. I put them in their own bed and they transitioned nicely themselves. I was lucky. THey slept through the night early on. SOmetimes they would have some trouble sleeping, but I would hold them and soothe them and put them back down. It worked. I think each mom should do what they feel is best for their baby and themselves.
my only adive aboptu sleeping is to do what works for you and not let all the information outthere make you crazy.
my guy didn't sleep through until he was 14 months old--we tried everything and it became a real issue for us. We do a mix of what works for him. As for co-sleepign and crying it out--he won't co-sleep 'cause he thinks it is playtime and sometimes he can't unwind himself and he has to cry it out a bit--but we didn't start this until her was almost a year and we never let him cry for more than 15 minutes because the md said if a babies cried for mroe than 15 minutes something is probably wrong. You have to do what works for your kid and don't feel guilty about it. You need to sleep--trust me. After a year of not sleeping I gained weight, my man and I were fighting all the time, we were afraid to go anywhere in case he didn't sleep--you can't live like that
Mine did not sleep through the night until she was almost 9 months old. I did not push it or anything, it just happened. I did do CIO (cry it out) when she was 6 months old, for about a week, scheduled feedings and naptimes. She has been sleeping at the same time since she was 6 months old. Routine worked for me very well. Some children are very needy, so CIO would not be ideal for them. Mine has always been very independent.
She is a very happy two year old, now who has been going to bed without a problem. At 2 and a half, she still naps two hours during the day and sleeps about 11 hours at night, all at the same time, no fuss, no crying.
I totally agree. I did CIO with mine, but it only lasted for a week. You have to make sure, though, that they are not in pain, hungry, or have any kind of discomfort if you are doing CIO. Mine cried for about a week with me checking in on her, but I did take longer than 15 minutes. When the week was over, she went to bed without a fuss.
Also, when I did CIO, it also included a routine where I would lie with her, massaging her, singing to her, and getting her drowsy. I still do that routine and she now expects it. You just dont put them to sleep and let them cry, either.
Quoting mami3:
my only adive aboptu sleeping is to do what works for you and not let all the information outthere make you crazy.
my guy didn't sleep through until he was 14 months old--we tried everything and it became a real issue for us. We do a mix of what works for him. As for co-sleepign and crying it out--he won't co-sleep 'cause he thinks it is playtime and sometimes he can't unwind himself and he has to cry it out a bit--but we didn't start this until her was almost a year and we never let him cry for more than 15 minutes because the md said if a babies cried for mroe than 15 minutes something is probably wrong. You have to do what works for your kid and don't feel guilty about it. You need to sleep--trust me. After a year of not sleeping I gained weight, my man and I were fighting all the time, we were afraid to go anywhere in case he didn't sleep--you can't live like that

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