I was in your shoes, but it wasn't a friend, it was my Brother-in-law. You and your husband need to sit down and talk about this. It's disruptive to the family and draining your finances. There is no reason that a grown ass man needs to be crashing at his friend's house, especially when that friend  has a wife and family. Helping a friend in need is one thing. That friend taking advantage of your kindness is another. 30 days is long enough. Give him 2 weeks and he has to be out if not sooner. "You ain't gotta go home, but you're not staying here."

Quoting Shortfuse007:

I was in your shoes, but it wasn't a friend, it was my Brother-in-law. You and your husband need to sit down and talk about this. It's disruptive to the family and draining your finances. There is no reason that a grown ass man needs to be crashing at his friend's house, especially when that friend  has a wife and family. Helping a friend in need is one thing. That friend taking advantage of your kindness is another. 30 days is long enough. Give him 2 weeks and he has to be out if not sooner. "You ain't gotta go home, but you're not staying here."

A year or two ago I came up to the conclusion that I can't live with anyone else beside my husband and kids. So now we, for once don't offer the house to anyone. I know what is like to live with people that doesn't do anything and are living for free. The best thing to do is for your bf talk to him and give him a date to leave and stick with it. Be serious AND firm about the decision. Also if there's a next time from day ONE tell him/her that is expected help around the house and help with money. You guys have kids so feeding an extra mouth can't be so easy. I hope he move asap. 

Quoting sweetyazfl:

A year or two ago I came up to the conclusion that I can't live with anyone else beside my husband and kids. So now we, for once don't offer the house to anyone. I know what is like to live with people that doesn't do anything and are living for free. The best thing to do is for your bf talk to him and give him a date to leave and stick with it. Be serious AND firm about the decision. Also if there's a next time from day ONE tell him/her that is expected help around the house and help with money. You guys have kids so feeding an extra mouth can't be so easy. I hope he move asap. 

I would never allow a friend of my husband just to stay with us. My husband would not allow it either. The only exception would be a very close faamily member. We have always discussed about how protective we are of our home and the environment we raise our girls in. We have our girls set on a schedule. Nothing nor anyone is more important than what is best for our girls in our home. Whenever you make a decision to allow someone into your home you run a risk of dealing with uncomfortable issues as you are dealing with now that causes a strain on your relationship. Why should your husband's friend cause you anymore strain than you already have running a household and taking care of your kids? You need to be very direct and honest with your husband before it becomes a bigger problem.

 Lo siento mucho Rosi , pienso que tu prometido debe de hablar con el y ponerle una fecha  para que se vaya todos tenemos problemas pero no se tiene que quedar  toda la vida ,espero que pronto puedan resolver la situación y todo vuelva a la normalidad ,mientra trata de mantener  mucha paciencia☺

Quoting rockytinasmami:

I would never allow a friend of my husband just to stay with us. My husband would not allow it either. The only exception would be a very close faamily member. We have always discussed about how protective we are of our home and the environment we raise our girls in. We have our girls set on a schedule. Nothing nor anyone is more important than what is best for our girls in our home. Whenever you make a decision to allow someone into your home you run a risk of dealing with uncomfortable issues as you are dealing with now that causes a strain on your relationship. Why should your husband's friend cause you anymore strain than you already have running a household and taking care of your kids? You need to be very direct and honest with your husband before it becomes a bigger problem.

Quoting regalodedios:

 Lo siento mucho Rosi , pienso que tu prometido debe de hablar con el y ponerle una fecha  para que se vaya todos tenemos problemas pero no se tiene que quedar  toda la vida ,espero que pronto puedan resolver la situación y todo vuelva a la normalidad ,mientra trata de mantener  mucha paciencia☺

 De nada gracias a ti por permitirme opinar

Quoting Rosaidam:

Muchas gracias por responder. Yo espero que mi novio hables con su amigo.

Quoting regalodedios:

 Lo siento mucho Rosi , pienso que tu prometido debe de hablar con el y ponerle una fecha  para que se vaya todos tenemos problemas pero no se tiene que quedar  toda la vida ,espero que pronto puedan resolver la situación y todo vuelva a la normalidad ,mientra trata de mantener  mucha paciencia☺

if your hubby wont say anything, then you need to...its your house too..

look dude, you have satayed here for a month, but you dont help out with bills or food, if your gona stay here than we need to discuss payments. If not, you have a week to get your stuff together.

and if your afraid to say something like that, than you need to threaten your man.

if you dont get your friend out of here than im out of here!