Ok, My Husband goes camping once a year with his friends. He has done this since we've been together. (10 years).
I have never had a problem with it, it has never bothered me. I have NEVER stopped him from going. He works hard to take care of us, and I think he deserves his "guy time".
Well the last 2 years he started taking our 2 oldest boys with him. Some of his friends take their kids too. Again, I don't have an issue, I tghink its nice, and my boys love it.
This year I have a problem with the trip, for the first time EVER, the Hubby and I have be fighting.
It all started a couple of weeks ago, because my brother in law, who is 22, started putting an invitation all over his fb, for all his friends to go meet them to party.
Now, I know the guys drink, it doesn't bother me. My DH isn't a drinker, and when the guys drink its usually just a chill type of thing. But, by my BIL inviting all his little friends, means its not just gonna be a "chill" trip. Its gonna turn into a full on party. I trust my DH being there. But, for a bunch of 20 year olds getting drunk and stupid around my kids, THAT I do have a problem with. So, I told him the boys can't go, and now we have been fighting non stop.
Its turned into, oh I don't trust him, and I should know the kids are gonna be fine, and blah, blah, blah. I told him, tell your brother stop turning it into a blow out, and the boys can go. He said, his brothers an adult and he can't tell him what to do. Well then, MY BOYS CAN'T GO!
So, not only are DH and I not getting along, but my boys are upset with me too. I ruined their trip, ect. I feel bad, but am I wrong here?? Why am I the bad guy? Ugh!!!
So, Ladies what do you think? Be honest, I can take it. If I'm wrong and overreactting, I want to know.
I have never had a problem with it, it has never bothered me. I have NEVER stopped him from going. He works hard to take care of us, and I think he deserves his "guy time".
Well the last 2 years he started taking our 2 oldest boys with him. Some of his friends take their kids too. Again, I don't have an issue, I tghink its nice, and my boys love it.
This year I have a problem with the trip, for the first time EVER, the Hubby and I have be fighting.
It all started a couple of weeks ago, because my brother in law, who is 22, started putting an invitation all over his fb, for all his friends to go meet them to party.
Now, I know the guys drink, it doesn't bother me. My DH isn't a drinker, and when the guys drink its usually just a chill type of thing. But, by my BIL inviting all his little friends, means its not just gonna be a "chill" trip. Its gonna turn into a full on party. I trust my DH being there. But, for a bunch of 20 year olds getting drunk and stupid around my kids, THAT I do have a problem with. So, I told him the boys can't go, and now we have been fighting non stop.
Its turned into, oh I don't trust him, and I should know the kids are gonna be fine, and blah, blah, blah. I told him, tell your brother stop turning it into a blow out, and the boys can go. He said, his brothers an adult and he can't tell him what to do. Well then, MY BOYS CAN'T GO!
So, not only are DH and I not getting along, but my boys are upset with me too. I ruined their trip, ect. I feel bad, but am I wrong here?? Why am I the bad guy? Ugh!!!
So, Ladies what do you think? Be honest, I can take it. If I'm wrong and overreactting, I want to know.
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Posted by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 1:12 PM
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by Pancha1122 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 1:19 PM
Well, I would have the same reaction as you, but, doesn't your BIL know it's an all guys thing?? If he's taking women, why can't your hubby take you??
It was supposed to be an all guys thing, you know bonding for your hubby and the boys. I don't see why you shouldn't go. Tell him. See what he says then!!
It was supposed to be an all guys thing, you know bonding for your hubby and the boys. I don't see why you shouldn't go. Tell him. See what he says then!!
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by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 1:50 PM
Oh, I don't want to go. Lol I'm not an outdoorsy type girl. Lol
I'm not worried about girls being there, my BIL is inviting all his friends guys and girls. He just wants to get drunk and party.
What bothers me is that these kids are gonna get drunk and stupid. We aren't drinkers, and my boys have never seen anyone drunk. I'm worried they are gonna get stupid and loud, and the cops r gonna show up. I don't want my kids seeing or being there for any of that. That's my only concern.
I'm not worried about girls being there, my BIL is inviting all his friends guys and girls. He just wants to get drunk and party.
What bothers me is that these kids are gonna get drunk and stupid. We aren't drinkers, and my boys have never seen anyone drunk. I'm worried they are gonna get stupid and loud, and the cops r gonna show up. I don't want my kids seeing or being there for any of that. That's my only concern.
Quoting Pancha1122:
Well, I would have the same reaction as you, but, doesn't your BIL know it's an all guys thing?? If he's taking women, why can't your hubby take you??
It was supposed to be an all guys thing, you know bonding for your hubby and the boys. I don't see why you shouldn't go. Tell him. See what he says then!!
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by Pancha1122 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:14 PM
Oh I see.
I imagine you are just going to have to trust your husband to ensure that your boys will be spared from this.
How old are your sons? Maybe it's a good lesson: don't drink or you'll end up like that! LOL
Growing up, there was one person in the family who did many stupid things drunk. One of them was when she literally took a dump on a chair!!!! She thought it was the toilet!! And right there infront of everyone!! It was funny and gross! I've gotten that drunk ONCE in my life, and never again. I don't care for drinking, either, but once in a blue moon.
:-) I think your sons will be ok if they're with their father.
I don't care for the outdoors either. I live nature, as long as I can look at it from a glass window of a hotel room where there is a bathroom and clean water!! :-)
I imagine you are just going to have to trust your husband to ensure that your boys will be spared from this.
How old are your sons? Maybe it's a good lesson: don't drink or you'll end up like that! LOL
Growing up, there was one person in the family who did many stupid things drunk. One of them was when she literally took a dump on a chair!!!! She thought it was the toilet!! And right there infront of everyone!! It was funny and gross! I've gotten that drunk ONCE in my life, and never again. I don't care for drinking, either, but once in a blue moon.
:-) I think your sons will be ok if they're with their father.
I don't care for the outdoors either. I live nature, as long as I can look at it from a glass window of a hotel room where there is a bathroom and clean water!! :-)
Quoting Kimberlyrose83:
Oh, I don't want to go. Lol I'm not an outdoorsy type girl. Lol
I'm not worried about girls being there, my BIL is inviting all his friends guys and girls. He just wants to get drunk and party.
What bothers me is that these kids are gonna get drunk and stupid. We aren't drinkers, and my boys have never seen anyone drunk. I'm worried they are gonna get stupid and loud, and the cops r gonna show up. I don't want my kids seeing or being there for any of that. That's my only concern.
Quoting Pancha1122:
Well, I would have the same reaction as you, but, doesn't your BIL know it's an all guys thing?? If he's taking women, why can't your hubby take you??
It was supposed to be an all guys thing, you know bonding for your hubby and the boys. I don't see why you shouldn't go. Tell him. See what he says then!!
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by Rosaidam on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:20 PM
I'd be the same way but if the boys are old dnough than let them go. Maybe they'll learn a lesson on how drinking isn't good for you. Although it seems the brother in law and others will be partying it up that doesn't mean your hubby and kids would be.
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by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:31 PM
Lol, oh no! Yeah, stuff similar. Turned me off from drinking too.
My boys are 8 and 5.
My boys are 8 and 5.
Quoting Pancha1122:
Oh I see.
I imagine you are just going to have to trust your husband to ensure that your boys will be spared from this.
How old are your sons? Maybe it's a good lesson: don't drink or you'll end up like that! LOL
Growing up, there was one person in the family who did many stupid things drunk. One of them was when she literally took a dump on a chair!!!! She thought it was the toilet!! And right there infront of everyone!! It was funny and gross! I've gotten that drunk ONCE in my life, and never again. I don't care for drinking, either, but once in a blue moon.
:-) I think your sons will be ok if they're with their father.
I don't care for the outdoors either. I live nature, as long as I can look at it from a glass window of a hotel room where there is a bathroom and clean water!! :-)Quoting Kimberlyrose83:
Oh, I don't want to go. Lol I'm not an outdoorsy type girl. Lol
I'm not worried about girls being there, my BIL is inviting all his friends guys and girls. He just wants to get drunk and party.
What bothers me is that these kids are gonna get drunk and stupid. We aren't drinkers, and my boys have never seen anyone drunk. I'm worried they are gonna get stupid and loud, and the cops r gonna show up. I don't want my kids seeing or being there for any of that. That's my only concern.
Quoting Pancha1122:
Well, I would have the same reaction as you, but, doesn't your BIL know it's an all guys thing?? If he's taking women, why can't your hubby take you??
It was supposed to be an all guys thing, you know bonding for your hubby and the boys. I don't see why you shouldn't go. Tell him. See what he says then!!
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by 1MrsRios1 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:36 PM
No way, my son would not be going ! At 8 & 5 they are wayy to young. Specially if there's going to be drunk girls + guys, you never what can happen. I wouldn't want my son hearing drunk man talk, or seeing drunk people making out. I feel as if your husband should understand your opinion. If it's a weekend thing why not go by himself for the "party" and then you can take the kids the day after? Meet half way, compromise, but I don't blame you for not wanting your kids with drunk people in the woods, even if your husband is sober. Your BIL is too old to be told what to do, and so are the other adults going to the party, there's no telling wether or not the'll respect the kids being there & control their actions, specially after having beers/liq.
by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:37 PM
My boys are 8 and 5.
I know DH won't be partying, but he will be in the mist of it. BIL has told us so many crazy stories of "his" parties, that I just don't want my kids around it. Its funny when he tells us, we all laugh about it. But I don't want my boys witness to it.
I don't want to be the crazy wife that ruins everyones fun, but I don't know, this just really bugs me.
Honestly, Rose, am I overreacting?
I know DH won't be partying, but he will be in the mist of it. BIL has told us so many crazy stories of "his" parties, that I just don't want my kids around it. Its funny when he tells us, we all laugh about it. But I don't want my boys witness to it.
I don't want to be the crazy wife that ruins everyones fun, but I don't know, this just really bugs me.
Honestly, Rose, am I overreacting?
Quoting Rosaidam:
I'd be the same way but if the boys are old dnough than let them go. Maybe they'll learn a lesson on how drinking isn't good for you. Although it seems the brother in law and others will be partying it up that doesn't mean your hubby and kids would be.
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by Krise on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:39 PM
Honestly depending on the kids ages, I would still let them go. I don't see that much of an issue with it. We have large parties at our house where we are all drinking and the kids are there. Camping if it gets out of hand the rangers will be there before it even gets that close.
by Rosaidam on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:41 PM
You're not over reacting but at the same time we can't be too over protective of our boys. It's a tough call since I know you won't go but I'd say let him take the boys. Is it really far where in case of emergency you can't get to them?
Quoting Kimberlyrose83:
My boys are 8 and 5.
I know DH won't be partying, but he will be in the mist of it. BIL has told us so many crazy stories of "his" parties, that I just don't want my kids around it. Its funny when he tells us, we all laugh about it. But I don't want my boys witness to it.
I don't want to be the crazy wife that ruins everyones fun, but I don't know, this just really bugs me.
Honestly, Rose, am I overreacting?
Quoting Rosaidam:
I'd be the same way but if the boys are old dnough than let them go. Maybe they'll learn a lesson on how drinking isn't good for you. Although it seems the brother in law and others will be partying it up that doesn't mean your hubby and kids would be.
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by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 1, 2012 at 3:43 PM
Thank you! That's exactly how I feel.
BIL has told us stories of what goes on at these parties. We laugh at all the stupid things that happen, but its not so funny to think of my boys sitting there watching.
I don't care that my DH will be there, I DO, trust him. He will probably get a kick out of it. I just want him to get that, those are not things I want my boys to see. I don't know how to get that point across to him. All he hears is that I don't trust him. Its so frustrating, cause if I don't trust him, I would have been mad at every other trip he has been to over the years.
BIL has told us stories of what goes on at these parties. We laugh at all the stupid things that happen, but its not so funny to think of my boys sitting there watching.
I don't care that my DH will be there, I DO, trust him. He will probably get a kick out of it. I just want him to get that, those are not things I want my boys to see. I don't know how to get that point across to him. All he hears is that I don't trust him. Its so frustrating, cause if I don't trust him, I would have been mad at every other trip he has been to over the years.
Quoting 1MrsRios1:No way, my son would not be going ! At 8 & 5 they are wayy to young. Specially if there's going to be drunk girls + guys, you never what can happen. I wouldn't want my son hearing drunk man talk, or seeing drunk people making out. I feel as if your husband should understand your opinion. If it's a weekend thing why not go by himself for the "party" and then you can take the kids the day after? Meet half way, compromise, but I don't blame you for not wanting your kids with drunk people in the woods, even if your husband is sober. Your BIL is too old to be told what to do, and so are the other adults going to the party, there's no telling wether or not the'll respect the kids being there & control their actions, specially after having beers/liq.
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