Do you let other people dicipline or chastise your kids?
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As you all know my Husbands best friend has been living with us for a while. It, for the most part has been fine.
He has been in my kids lives for their whole lives, but of course this is the most time he has spent around them.
When he first moved in, he would keep pretty quiet when it came to my boys, but over time he has interjected more and more. At first, it was just kind of a back up for me or my DH. If I told my boys something and they didn't listen or hear me, he would say, "did you hear your Mom?" Or asking them to be quiet or to settle down.. Which I didn't mind.
But lately, he has said more. Even raising his voice to them. I think he is stricter with them then we are. Like one day, he they were playing in our living room. They were getting loud, but they are kids. I don't mind it as long as its not crazy out of control, and there is no fighting. They were laughing and being silly. Well, he started telling them they needed to be quiet or go to there rooms, then quickly said just go to your rooms! When I walked out, I was cooking in the kitchen, the boys had already left the room. I kept quiet but, Its really starting to work my nerves. When I talk to my DH about it, he mostly brushes me of and he will say, oh he doesn't mean anything bad, he just isn't used to kids.
He knew we had kids, so used to them or not he knew we had them! So, what do I do? My Husband doesn't want me to say anything, because he thinks I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Maybe I am being protective over my kids, but where do you draw the line?
I'm not delusional, I know my kids aren't angels. They do get to loud, to hyper, and cry baby sometimes. They don't always listen and they will fight with each other, but they ARE KIDS!
So, what do I do Ladies? What would you do? Am I overreacting?
He has been in my kids lives for their whole lives, but of course this is the most time he has spent around them.
When he first moved in, he would keep pretty quiet when it came to my boys, but over time he has interjected more and more. At first, it was just kind of a back up for me or my DH. If I told my boys something and they didn't listen or hear me, he would say, "did you hear your Mom?" Or asking them to be quiet or to settle down.. Which I didn't mind.
But lately, he has said more. Even raising his voice to them. I think he is stricter with them then we are. Like one day, he they were playing in our living room. They were getting loud, but they are kids. I don't mind it as long as its not crazy out of control, and there is no fighting. They were laughing and being silly. Well, he started telling them they needed to be quiet or go to there rooms, then quickly said just go to your rooms! When I walked out, I was cooking in the kitchen, the boys had already left the room. I kept quiet but, Its really starting to work my nerves. When I talk to my DH about it, he mostly brushes me of and he will say, oh he doesn't mean anything bad, he just isn't used to kids.
He knew we had kids, so used to them or not he knew we had them! So, what do I do? My Husband doesn't want me to say anything, because he thinks I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Maybe I am being protective over my kids, but where do you draw the line?
I'm not delusional, I know my kids aren't angels. They do get to loud, to hyper, and cry baby sometimes. They don't always listen and they will fight with each other, but they ARE KIDS!
So, what do I do Ladies? What would you do? Am I overreacting?
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Posted by Kimberlyrose83 on Jun. 8, 2012 at 5:51 PM
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by dreamer on Jun. 19, 2012 at 11:09 AM
No I don't think your guest has the rite to discipline your kids. They might have the rite to give you a heads up, but thats about it. when I leave my kids at my suegras, they always have all the grandkids. if some of them are misbehaving they have to spank everyone because they say it's gotta be equal. My son comes to me and says he got spanked without him having fault.
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