I want to share something that happened to me while on FB.
A few days ago, I came accross an old friend from my childhood in Mexico. She is from the same village I was born, and we were neighbors. Last time I saw her was 25 years ago. We played a lot as little girls. Our mothers, though, hated each other and at that time, I did not know why. Without even knowing, we were rivals as well. If she got something, Mom got me something bigger or better.
Her siblings were the same age as my siblings, so they too, were best friends.
My friend's mom was a widow, and you know, in small villages rumors are bigger. It was said that she was a slut and that she slept even with married man. All the married women hated her. They even said that she would charge for sex; how else could she support her children?
She was a very beautiful woman, dark-skinned and the most incredible grey eyes I've seen. She looked like this woman,
only, she had grey eyes. As a matter of fact, when I saw Houseboat, I honestly thought Sophia Lauren was my friend's mom. Seriously.
Anyway, a few years later, after we had come to the U.S. I found out that she had slept with my father many times throughout the years, and that many thought my friend, who was the youngest, was my father's daughter. That's why my mom had hated her all those years.
So, a few days ago, while we were chatting on FB, I realized that she is a snob and very superficial. She talked and talked about her material things and all the money she has (her brothers are drug dealers). I was all, whatever.
But then, she tried to belittle me and worse, my mom! That really pissed me off! no one insults my mother! I'd never insult anyone's mom, not even if I dislike them? What fault is of their mother? So, I got angry and told her, "You know, my mom may have her faults, but she was always a good mother, and gave us good moral values. She raised us well, and took us to church. She brought us close to God. She was and is still a lady; your mother, on the other hand, was a whore, who slept with my father many times. They even say you're my sister. Don't you dare compare her to my mom.
Her mother did what she had to do to support her children, and I should not judge her. Now, I was not going to ever say that, but you know what? I got pissed. I couldn't stop, once I started.
Her mother is dead, and I know it wasn't nice to insult her memory, but you know what? As someone once said, "If you don't want people talking bad about you, why do you misbehave?" Her mother is dead, but she was what she was.
I know what you're going to say, "that was very wrong," and all that. I just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.
I don't think it was sk wrong. Perhaps They are things that are better left unsaid, but unfortunately they came out. You can apologize if it means anything, but if she is so materialistic she will bring it back one day. I have seen and lived many things in my life and I don't see this as a really bad thing. If in fact it was true, you have not said anything that was not long due. Did she stopped after that? Perhaps she never grew up and still thinks that everything is a competition. Just let it go and forget about it. I'm pretty sure is not the first time she has heard it either. If it makes you feel any better, I probably would have done the same thing and probably would be feeling exactly like you right now. Thanks for sharing. It is a very interesting story.
You know, my mother was taught that you have to look the other way when your husband cheats on you, and take it all, so that's what she did when my dad would come home from her house. That mentallity was the norm in small villages in Mexico.
We were all thinking it, but I said it. LOL People don't talk about those things of the past. Mom just remembers her as a whore. but yeah, I never meant to mention it, until she pissed me off.
Quoting thehappypig:
I don't think it was sk wrong. Perhaps They are things that are better left unsaid, but unfortunately they came out. You can apologize if it means anything, but if she is so materialistic she will bring it back one day. I have seen and lived many things in my life and I don't see this as a really bad thing. If in fact it was true, you have not said anything that was not long due. Did she stopped after that? Perhaps she never grew up and still thinks that everything is a competition. Just let it go and forget about it. I'm pretty sure is not the first time she has heard it either. If it makes you feel any better, I probably would have done the same thing and probably would be feeling exactly like you right now. Thanks for sharing. It is a very interesting story.
I don't think you were wrong at all. The only thing that I'm wondering is what about your dad? Did your mom forgive and is she still w/ him? Is he even sorry? I guess it kinda bothers me that the other woman was talked bad about, but no one ever says anything about the man. Both were wrong.
No I don't think you were wrong. If she still wants to be superficial and stuff that is her problem, but she should have never mention your mother. To me that is crossing the line. Honestly, If that would have happen to me I would have done the same. Now, that it is off your chest just let it go and don't entertain her.
My parents divorced shortly after. Everyone knew what my father was. He slept with many momen, and cheated on my mother many times. It took her long enough to finally leave him. My father asked for forgiveness to all his children for being a crappy father years later. We were on the mend, and then 2 years ago, he was brutally murdered. I think he paid his dues. I hope he has peace now.
Quoting dinah:
I don't think you were wrong at all. The only thing that I'm wondering is what about your dad? Did your mom forgive and is she still w/ him? Is he even sorry? I guess it kinda bothers me that the other woman was talked bad about, but no one ever says anything about the man. Both were wrong.
Oh yeah..she's completely blocked off my FB. I don't want that kind of people near me.
Quoting lilnena98:
No I don't think you were wrong. If she still wants to be superficial and stuff that is her problem, but she should have never mention your mother. To me that is crossing the line. Honestly, If that would have happen to me I would have done the same. Now, that it is off your chest just let it go and don't entertain her.
Quoting Pancha1122:
My parents divorced shortly after. Everyone knew what my father was. He slept with many momen, and cheated on my mother many times. It took her long enough to finally leave him. My father asked for forgiveness to all his children for being a crappy father years later. We were on the mend, and then 2 years ago, he was brutally murdered. I think he paid his dues. I hope he has peace now.
Quoting dinah:
I don't think you were wrong at all. The only thing that I'm wondering is what about your dad? Did your mom forgive and is she still w/ him? Is he even sorry? I guess it kinda bothers me that the other woman was talked bad about, but no one ever says anything about the man. Both were wrong.
I'm so sorry to hear that. My grandfather was the same way to my grandmother. Ans she was also taught that you shut up and look the other way. That's so sad.
Que fuerte! such a tragic story. Infidelity is insidious and tears families apart I hope you and your mother heal.
I totally agree and couldn't have put it any better than what you have thehappypig
pancha1122, YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
Quoting thehappypig:
I don't think it was sk wrong. Perhaps They are things that are better left unsaid, but unfortunately they came out. You can apologize if it means anything, but if she is so materialistic she will bring it back one day. I have seen and lived many things in my life and I don't see this as a really bad thing. If in fact it was true, you have not said anything that was not long due. Did she stopped after that? Perhaps she never grew up and still thinks that everything is a competition. Just let it go and forget about it. I'm pretty sure is not the first time she has heard it either. If it makes you feel any better, I probably would have done the same thing and probably would be feeling exactly like you right now. Thanks for sharing. It is a very interesting story.
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